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I Understand Now

Why men get away with what they do.

If you've been drinking, wearing provocative clothing, practice certain types of sex, had a lot of sex, didn't fight back.....the list goes on. Victim blaming.

I am also embarrassed that I let this happen to me. I should have done something, but I just sat there like an idiot and laughed it off.

I do not like being choked, I didn’t ask to be choked or kissed for that matter. I did not give my consent.

Yes, I had been drinking. That does not give anybody the right to choke or kiss me.

And because I am a strong personality usually, I don’t even think people will understand why I didn’t do something. Even I don’t.

I had marks last night, which are gone this morning, but my throat is very sore inside.

I just feel upset.


And I have been told that I should expect myself and other people to behave differently when drinking. That my story needs corroborating. That it's surprising I didn't fight. Just one person said "I'm sorry this happened to you". One person.

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dk_leathers
Feb. 6th, 2018 11:17 am (UTC)
victim blaming is horrible.
rape culture is horrible.

I'm SO fucking sorry (and angry) that this happened to you.
I hear you.
I believe you.
demi_x
Feb. 7th, 2018 02:57 am (UTC)

I'm shocked this happened to you, must have been by an idiot. Sorry too, lunch soon?

latex_mole
Feb. 8th, 2018 07:17 am (UTC)
:(

I'm very sorry (& angry) to hear about this.
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